"Not being assaulted is not a privilege to be earned through the judicious application of personal safety strategies. A woman should be able to walk down the street at 4 in the morning in nothing but her socks, blind drunk, without being assaulted, and I, for one, am not going to do anything to imply that she is in any way responsible for her own assault if she fails to Adequately Protect Herself. Men aren’t helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help raping a vulnerable woman. It disrespects EVERYONE."

Emily Nagoski.  (via rapeisnotajoke)

#Oh my God #THIS #FUCKING THIS #I would like to print this out #and staple it to the forehead of every guy who’s tried to tell me that women ‘just need to be careful about where they go/how they dress/how they act/who they flirt with’ #because no #the only deciding factor on whether or not someone gets raped #is the presence of a rapist #and guess what #they are EVERYWHERE #including but not limited the local bar #your high school #your college dorm building #your workplace #your group of friend #your family #and if you’re telling me that laughing at a guy’s jokes is the equivalent of telling him I’ve given up my right to say no #then you are the problem #not me #YOU

(via madeofglass)

(via homoerotics)

mandylasers:

panda-bro:

Tea Time!

OH MY GOD.

(via feelwhaaale)

"A lot of people don’t heal [from trauma], and it manifests in a lot of different ways throughout their lives. There’s a study they did with Vietnam vets who’d had—clearly—a lot of trauma during the war. Twenty years later, they measured their levels of pain before and after they showed them intense footage from Vietnam. Pretty much across the board, after they saw this really intense, violent footage from the war, their levels of pain went down. Because when trauma doesn’t get to work itself through your system, your system idles at a heightened state, and so getting more really intense input calms your system down….A lot of folks who’ve survived trauma end up being really calm in crisis and freaking out in everyday life."

Meredith Broome (via amstibovvered)

This is fucking relevant to so many people I know

including me, basically

(via anedumacation)

(Source: kathrynincalgary, via homoerotics)

"…We were particularly amazed when thousands, then tens of thousands of people began creating their own personal Star Trek adventures. Stories, and paintings, and sculptures, and cookbooks. And songs, and poems, and fashions. And more. The list is still growing. It took some time for us to fully understand and appreciate what these people were saying. Eventually we realized that there is no more profound way in which people could express what Star Trek has meant to them than by creating their own very personal Star Trek things. Because I am a writer, it was their Star Trek stories that especially gratified me. I have seen these writings in dog-eared notebooks of fans who didn’t look old enough to spell ‘cat.’ I have seen them in meticulously produced fanzines, complete with excellent artwork. Some of it has even been done by professional writers, and much of it has come from those clearly on their way to becoming professional writers. Best of all, all of it was plainly done with love…. That is the highest compliment and the greatest repayment that they could give us."

— Gene Roddenberry (via craic-dealer)

(via clio-jlh)

emmagrant01:

lascocks:

carororo:

hils-k:

bringmehsomepie:

patheticfangirl:

This is my letter to angry fanboys.

First, let it be known that I love most fanboys. When I go to a con, most of the guys there are respectful. They share a passion with me, and that’s awesome. We’re all on a rock floating through space with little connection to most of the people who surround us, so anything that allows us to bond is fantastic.

What I don’t love are angry fanboys (I wish there were a different word for them). I don’t love being scoffed at when I jump excitedly at finding a comic. I don’t love being told that, if I didn’t like something, it’s because it wasn’t “meant for chicks.” I don’t love the notion that I’m not a real fan because I have two X chromosomes and like to look at the Avengers cast. And I sure as hell don’t love my online interests (particularly shipping) being looked down on by the people who do this:

(Comment on a negative Rotten Tomatoes review of The Avengers.)

(Message in my inbox. Way to be an anonymous coward.)

(Comment on the the SHH boards.)

That last one’s fairly tame. It followed a (now deleted) comment that went something to the effect of this: “Tumblr is sick. I can’t even browse the Avengers tag because of all the fangirls posting porn.”

Well, you know what? I’m not sorry.

I’m not sorry my enjoyment of fandom is different from yours.

Maybe my time would be better spent bitching at reviewers and complaining that Black Widow made it to film before Ant-Man. But that’s not what I choose to do. I choose to draw. I choose to write fanfic. I choose to share podcasts and make comic book recommendations. I choose to be positive (when I’m not pissed of at people like you anyway).

I’m not sorry you sometimes stumble upon sexualized male characters.

You know why? Because of this:

(Zatanna’s new “costume”)

And this:

(Starfire)

And this:

(Heroes for Hire #13)

And, finally, this:

(Thor, Iron Man, Captain America, Hulk, Hawkeye, and TITS AND ASS!)

You get to ogle comic book characters constantly. You get to ogle movie characters constantly. And you know what? While I have a problem with the double standard in comics, that is your right. Women are sexy.

But if I want to put Iron Man and Captain America on the cover of The Notebook or pose them like Cyclops and Jean Grey, I’m going to do it. And I think I have the right to without being thought of as some sort of freak.

(Shameless self-promotion.)

How is the way I enjoy my hobby less healthy than the way you enjoy yours? How am I the one who’s inappropriate? I think it’s because I sexualize male characters instead of female ones.

I’m not sorry that makes you uncomfortable.

(“Leave the Avengers aloooonnneeeee!”)

(Wasp would never say this.)

I’m not sorry you’re a homophobe.

Actually, I kind of am. Exploring alternate sexual orientations isn’t “defamation of character.” It’s 2012, for crying out loud. I’m not a lesbian (or curious for that matter) but I can appreciate the Spider-Woman/Ms.Marvel pairing and the occasional Pepper/Natasha fic. The world of internet fandom has a lot to offer you if you let it.

I’m not sorry for shipping.

Shipping is glorious. I ship because it’s nice to think that these epic heroes have equally epic romances. Some of the fanfic out there is better written than a lot of comic books. Some of the fanart is better than real comic book art (looking at you, Rob Liefeld). Some of the things I ship are canon (Spider-Man/MJ). Others aren’t.

(Not canon.)

There’s a misconception that fangirls are only interested in male/male pairings. Some of them are, and who cares? That’s their right. But the assumption just isn’t true. There’s a reason Natasha/Clint is popular among movie fans. There’s a reason Tony/Pepper is popular. Those characters have boatloads of chemistry.

Then again, so do Loki/Thor, Tony/Bruce, and Tony/Steve. Don’t want ladies to overwhelmingly ship male characters together? Make a movie with more than one female lead. We can’t help it that The Avengers is a sausage party.

We are going to ship. We are going to ship loudly and proudly and there’s nothing you can do about it. I suggest you stop complaining and jump on the bandwagon. You might be surprised at how much you enjoy fangirls when you get to know us. We have a sense of humor. We have a sense of fun. We just happen to also have a strong sense of romance and a thing for attractive men.

So sue us.

*STANDING OVATION*

Bless this post

So much this

Oh, I’m sorry, are people sexualizing your gender and then putting it on the internet in a way that makes you uncomfortable?  Welcome to every single day for women.

^^

i like it when the boys kiss

So much this. Seriously, if you don’t like what I ship, don’t read it. I’m not twisting your arm. (People who bitch about Johnlock porn, this also applies to you.)

suddenly i want a DUM-E and U romance

ironfries:

:|a

leave me be

maybelletea:

Happy birthday, my son. If only I could have helped you.

(via puckling)

lettiebobettie:

It’s really hard to find a date when you are the single parent of assassin babies that always find their way into terrible trouble….

lettiebobettie:

It’s really hard to find a date when you are the single parent of assassin babies that always find their way into terrible trouble….

(via clio-jlh)

mjwatson:

#HERE HAVE THE ‘MINDLESS BEAST’ JUMPING INTO THE AIR AND CLINGING TO A MOTHERFUCKING BUILDING TO SAVE THE ONLY PERSON WHO BELIEVED IN HIM!!!!!!!!!!!! #help feels

tell-me-about-that-dream-where:

In which Steve and Tony are very protective of their little boy…

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